Let’s be honest: working from home sounds dreamy if you imagine long lunches and comfy clothes. But if you’re also looking after someone—maybe your mom, a partner, or even a neighbor who relies on you—it can start to feel like you’re juggling pineapples and chainsaws at the same time.
If that’s you, just know you are not alone, and it’s totally possible to find a groove that works for everyone. It’s not magic, but with a few good habits and some self-compassion, you’ll find your rhythm (well, most days).
Figure Out a Routine (But Don’t Tie Yourself in Knots)
Routines are priceless—until life throws a wrench into your carefully planned calendar because someone needs a snack right now or a doctor calls in the middle of your Zoom meeting. If you can, set up anchor points for your day: work blocks, meal times, medication reminders. Even just having a rough outline helps your brain know what’s next.
Don’t get bogged down if things go sideways. Some days will end with a pint of ice cream on the couch, and that’s perfectly fine.
Make Your Workspace a “Work Only” Zone—Even if It’s the Corner of the Kitchen
Finding space is tricky, especially if you’re sharing a small place or living in a multi-generational household. Still, carving out some kind of boundary—not just physical, but mental—makes a world of difference. Maybe it’s a card table in your bedroom where you stash your laptop, or just setting your phone on “do not disturb” for a while. Even little rituals (like changing out of pajamas, seriously!) signal it’s work time, which helps everyone, including you, stay on track.
Get Comfortable Saying “I Need Help”
Most caregivers are champions at toughing things out alone, but honestly, that isn’t sustainable. Could a neighbor pick up groceries? Are there programs your local church or an assisted living community offers for respite care, even just for a few hours? Leaning on others doesn’t mean you’re dropping the ball. You’ll be a better worker and support person when you give yourself permission to accept help now and then.
Communication Is Your Friend—With Your Boss and Your Family
This part gets skipped a lot. Be straight with your employer about your caregiving role. A quick, honest chat can clear the air—and might even open doors to flexible hours, project swaps, or occasional days off if things get wild at home. And keep your family or the person you’re caring for in the loop. It’s okay to set boundaries and say, “I’m on an important call. Can you wait ten minutes?”
Remember: You’re Only Human
Some days, you’ll knock it out of the park. Other days, you might cry in the laundry room. Both are normal. Celebrate the wins, forgive the chaos, and keep tweaking what’s not working. You’re doing great, even when it feels way too hard. Give yourself some credit. Seriously.